I am grateful for the opportunities to build businesses from the group up. I run it by checking the facts, be informed and organised, straightforward and honest, ask questions and compassion when dealing with people. The industry itself can quickly be learnt, but gratitude and kindness are not a given.
Experience is not stress-free but running a business without the dualistic black n white lenses, and status-quo is most auspicious. Non-duality allows simplicities of complex issues, neutrality, and equilibrium in not taking anything personally.
With confidence and a desire to ‘try’ I discovered I am a quick learner and asking questions gets us where we/the company need be. Oddly I’ve been told I ask too many questions….hmmm one such question prevented business from receiving a $100,000 government body fine for just stating on our website a computer was needed to use our services.
Importantly I do the homework. It is incredible how many times what people think is wrong.
Sometimes I am quite successful, others I must close a business. Unsuccessful times show me where I got in my own way, how to do better and more about people.
Simultaneous running businesses in several countries I am open new opportunities, expanding my knowledge and embracing new cultures.
• Pink Spiders Design – graphic design
• ‘Z’ Mind Body Spirit – yoga and martial arts centre
• Zhené Communications Ltd. (UK & CA) – Telecommunications
Opening in 2019
• Yoga Samgata Canada Ltd. – Professional Yoga Organisation
Blessed with an inviting presence and a listening ear, strangers and acquaintances share their stories with me. At bus stops, in shops, in libraries, at work and many other places.
I have learnt many life stories over the years.
When travelling, I am fortunate to meet people who invited for a meal with their whole family, to join them on their walks, and to go for coffee where I gifted with their stories.
I hear people given job opportunities they couldn’t believe because they lived on the streets for so long, they thought they’d never get work again, where they come from to what brought them here, about how their families` changed.
A Catholic nun bought me lunch one summer’s day in Burnaby. She spoke of her life on the reservations in upper British Columbia. How this affected her long into retirement.
People are fascinating for countless reasons. The stories come from children to grandparents, from professionals to the homeless. Regardless of their place in life, their job seniority and abilities (autism, brain injuries, etc.) I hear their stories.
I have not recorded stories but have each to memory (most). Someday I want to put them to paper. Now I’ve shared about 100 people’s lives. I am blessed.
Silence Observance to Overcome Abuse
Since a child, I found the corners of life more interesting than the centre. The centre always felt spongy to where people saw the easy parts of life, hid their emotions and not many swam in the deep waters of life. As a result, I found life confusing.
At the age of 10, I became excited about classical music, documentaries and serious people watching. I rode alone (mostly) not having friends who with me explored the complexities of life, philosophies, emotional turbulence and the wonders of nature.
People watching came out of my struggles to make sense of the pain and confusion of being raised in an abusive home, around other nasty family and being bullied at school.
In observing others, I learnt to discern reality from fiction. Only when in my 30`s did I understand my parents and several family members were mentally ill. Puzzled as they looked normal, acted normal in other people`s company. My parents were loved by so many.
Life became too much for so long that in grades 11 and 12 I didn`t speak. I watched, listened and blended into the world around me.
Being an empath caused perplexities that my families abuse exacerbated. Took time to understand the whys, hows and because of whoms.
Ironic of my upbringing I learnt how to navigate a productive life: owning and running several successful businesses, earned a BA in music composition, travell and continue to help others and myself solve problems, understand their lives and business/work.
As a result of my experiences, I help many people. Clients learn the benefits of breaking their silence in where elephants live in corners of their lives. Shame and fear can dissipate with the right help.
As an intuitive and empath I know what I know about people – I just know, other times information comes to me in dreams, and I then figure out who it is. I don’t have to know people personally; I see them in a room or on a bus. This gift began in my early years.
I give people to have their privacy; it is not my place to say what I know about them. When I do help people, I ask permission, or some approach me asking. Information can change lives; I want their permission, and I tread softly.
When I share insights, the information can trigger a visceral response of ‘Oh my gosh truly this is what’s happened, or I feel so stupid not to have seen this before’.
Occasionally people yell at me, tell me off, challenge my insights; ‘you cannot just say that’ and judge me harshly. People’s emotions rise when what I know challenges their beliefs, disrupts their thoughts of others and situations. Insights are not always easy to hear.
An Example: I client 63 years told me she couldn’t do a handstand because her back was not stable. In evaluating her, I found her back muscles were incredibly strong and flexible. She responded by yelling. I wasn’t a doctor and didn’t know anything. I explained my evaluation; I found out that her Chiropractor and GP had evaluated her that week with a ‘False Positive’.
Drs. told her 20 years earlier she had weak back muscles and spine. She exercised safely building her flexibility and strengths ever since. Her trusted ‘professionals’ were ageistic not fathoming she had, in fact, a fully mobile spine and strong back muscles. She apologised when she realised her truths. I suggested she finds new doctors.
When long-held beliefs are challenged (with verification to the contrary) we may have a delayed acceptance (sometimes not at all). Discovering beliefs or actions are not what they seem; it can jolt people. Responses are often subdued until absorbed, excitement and/or ‘that explains it’ moments come later.